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Tuesday, May 11, 2004
There are some people who are just born without a certain sense - of direction, of rhythm, of fashion, etc. and so no matter how hard they try, they're just not meant to be tour guides, or dancers, or designers. And it's not because they were raised by their parents wrongly, or because the environment they grew up in wasn't conducive to learning. It just so happened that it's inherent to them, that it's just the way things are and so they have to accept it and live with it. There's even a saying about it-- "If it's not meant to be, then it's not meant to be." or something like that. I mean, you gotta admit, there really are just some people who aren't cut out to be singers, no matter how great they look, or how much they practice, they just don't have it.
In that same way, maybe there are some people who are born without a 'sense of relationship' and so they're just not cut out to have a boyfriend or a girlfriend. And it's not because they're stupid, or ugly, or crazy, or because they're not trying. It really just so happens that they're not meant to ever be in a relationship, in the same way that some people aren't meant to be musicians. It could be that there really are some people who inherently, would never ever find a person to be in a relationship with, or maybe there really isn't anybody in the world that they're meant to find.
Maybe there really are some women meant to be old maids who just live with cats. I mean, if those women were married and had kids who were allergic to cats, where would those cats go then? If they all end up in the street and die, then maybe it'd cause an imbalance to nature or something. I mean, the world has to have a little bit of everything, right? So, maybe growing old and dying alone is actually something that's inevitable to certain people, because it's just the way things are.
And maybe I'm one of those people. I mean, I already can't ride a bike or swim, no matter how hard I try to learn, so why not not possess this certain sense also? I certainly can't be accused of not trying to acquire it, or working hard for it. Besides, I don't really think that it's something you have to work hard for, or even look for. How many times have I heard it? "You don't look for love. It just finds you." So why hasn't it found me yet, despite my obvious talent for finding it? And how come the people who are so sick of it, the people who don't want to fall in love, or don't want anyone falling in love with them, are the ones who love finds and stays at?
Seriously. I can give you two examples. Three even, and these are just among my friends.
Friend No.1 has just graduated from college. She's going to med school soon and she really wants to concentrate on her studies. So she decides to break it off with a guy who's so totally devoted to her. In fairness to her, she really likes him too, but she says that she has to think of her priorities, and that right now, she just can't imagine herself getting busy both with med school and a boyfriend. And so she calls it quits with him, even if it's so obvious that they're so meant for each other because they get along great.
Friend No. 2 on the other hand, although has gotten over her previous break-ups, is so not ready for another relationship yet. Because aside from the fact that she also really wants to concentrate on her studies (she's not graduating college yet), her parents are the kind who are really strict--so strict, that she had to keep her past 2 relationships a secret from them. Of course they eventually found out and were so grateful when she and her last boyfriend broke up, which is why, surely, they're not going to be thrilled when (or if) they find out that again, there's another guy who's just fallen in love with her and has asked her to be his girlfriend. My friend told me that she really doesn't want this yet, or need it. Not now, when her parents are still hot on her trail, and she's fighting to keep her grades up. And yet, it's here, it's true. There's a guy in love with her and is just waiting for an answer.
And with Friend No. 3, it's the opposite. It's her mom who's pressuring her to have a boyfriend. And she's no longer busy with school or anything really since she's just graduated from college and is currently unemployed. And there's absolutely nothing wrong with her. She's smart, funny, rich, and really pretty. She's multi-talented, too--she cooks, she cleans, she can take care of kids (her brother's married and has a baby) and she's a great friend... She's perfect girlfriend-material and yet there aren't any guys asking her out, or even attempting to do so. (Just so we're clear, friend.no3 is really a friend and i'm not disguising myself as my friend, okay?)
So my question is, how come, among those three girls, the one who wouldn't at all be hassled if a guy asked her out or said he liked her, is the one who doesn't have a guy like that? Why does it have to be, that those who don't want love, or aren't looking for it, are the ones who have it?
Okay, so these are just three people, and I'm sure that around the world it's different for everyone. But mind you, I've been reading many different blogs for the past few days, and I've seen more blogs about unrequited love rather than those about requited ones. And maybe it's because those who have sad love stories are the ones who have more need for blogs as they want to know if somebody still cares, and that's why there's more of them, but going back to the first thing I said, if this (never having anyone to love them back) is true for a lot of people (as I found out from several blogs), then maybe there really are just some beings in this world who are never meant to find love.
I guess if you think about it, if everybody in the world did find someone to love them back, then to whom would all the sad love songs apply to? And who'd be bitter and cynical enough to warn people about getting hurt? Or who'd take care of all those cats?
So maybe it is just a part of nature. And I'll just have to live with it. Fortunately for me, I'm a cat person.
Posted at 01:01 by miriyammqx
 | | | ivu_no_kane
July 22, 2004 11:24 PM PDT
that is one cute cat!!! and you know, as always, i'm by your side re issues like this.. | |
| | | mmmqx
May 12, 2004 02:38 AM PDT
not really sadistic. i'm just happy i guessed right. ^_^
but why not cats? aren't they cute?? | |
| | | XiJay
May 11, 2004 03:06 AM PDT
and oh, about the 'what's my problem?' Yes it does have relation with the other blog. Geez... i kinda look sadistic now! lol... | |
| | | XiJay
May 11, 2004 02:49 AM PDT
you know... it's really interesting to ponder about such things. One thing though, i'm not a cat person! no no cats... uh ugh!
Quote: There are some people who are just born without a certain sense - of direction, of rhythm, of fashion, etc. and so no matter how hard they try, they're just not meant to be tour guides, or dancers, or designers. And it's not because they were raised by their parents wrongly, or because the environment they grew up in wasn't conducive to learning. It just so happened that it's inherent to them, that it's just the way things are and so they have to accept it and live with it. There's even a saying about it-- "If it's not meant to be, then it's not meant to be." or something like that. I mean, you gotta admit, there really are just some people who aren't cut out to be singers, no matter how great they look, or how much they practice, they just don't have it.
Very very true... it's like it's inherited, aint it? I guess that's what makes us individuals. We can't alwasy try to be somebody else. | |
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